September 30, 2024 My Mom Is So Sad.

September 30, 2024•5 min read

I'm sad tonite because my Mom is.

I can only imagine how you feel.

One of my Mom's close friends, told her that this weekend she's going with a few of her family members, to look at places for my Mom's friend to live.

It seems like only yesterday that this friend told my Mom that she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and now she's going to look at places to live.

My Mom can't believe this is happening. I mean how could this happen so fast?

When her friend told her today, my Mom immediately got choked up, she felt like she had just been cut with a knife. And she's bleeding.

This is what my Mom is feeling, she can't even imagine how her friend must feel.

Her friend was speaking kind of matter of fact-ish. As if she's accepting this without even a fight. Her friend told her that she's just going to take a look at these places, that she doesn't have to make a decision right now.

WHAT??? My Mom is in disbelief, she DOES NOT want to accept this.

One family member has already looked at these places!!

What the heck?? Is this move happening sooner than later??

During the Pandemic, even though this friend lived VERY close by, they chatted with each other every week, with FaceTime, drinks in hand and snacks at the ready!

So today during their chat, my Mom was saying "These places better have a bar or a way for you to have a glass of wine or, YOU CANNOT AGREE TO GO THERE!"

What the heck, can you imagine living in a "place" where you cannot do what you want to do??

This affects my Mom so much. Truthfully, I think she's already mourning the loss of a dear friend. She doesn't want this to happen. Mostly, she doesn't want my friend to just give up and listen to her family about what they think is best for her. Shite.

I remember how upset my Mom was when her friend Frank called her to tell her that he was going into Hospice! "WHAT??? HOSPICE?? ARE YOU KIDDING ME???? Frank, you can't just go into hospice and die!! You have to say NO! You're not ready for that!!!!!!"

My Mom was so upset. She loved Frank so much, he was her mentor and friend for so many years, how could he leave her like this?? My Mom clearly was not ready to let go of her friend.

As it turned out, Frank was "released" or graduated or something, from hospice, because he was better. It was a close call. But eventually I think he went back. Frank had Lewy Body dementia. He did pass away but not without my Mom telling him how much she loved him.

Now this friend.

Maybe hospice is easier, for whom my Mom does not know.

However, she does know that she's not ready to lose another friend.

Please keep my Mom's unnamed friend in your thoughts and prayers. And maybe my Mom as well, these cuts feel so deep.

Thank you for listening.

“Life is short.
Be swift to Love,
make haste to be kind.”
Henri-Frederic Amiel

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Maisy❤️

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